Friday, May 06, 2016

The Land that made Me, Me


Long ago and far away, in a land that time forgot,
Before the days of Dylan , or the dawn of Camelot.
There lived a race of innocents, and they were you and me, 

For Ike was in the White House in that land that made me, me.
Where navels were for oranges, and Peyton Place was porn. 

We longed for love and romance, and waited for our Prince,
Eddie Fisher married Liz, and no one's seen him since. 

We danced to 'Little Darlin,' and sang to 'Stagger Lee'
And cried for Buddy Holly in the Land That Made Me,
 Me. 
Only girls wore earrings then, and 3 was one too many,
And only boys wore flat-top cuts, except for Jean McKinney
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And only in our wildest dreams did we expect to see 
 
A boy named George with Lipstick, in the Land That Made Me, Me. 
We fell for Frankie Avalon, Annette was oh, so nice,
And when they made a movie, they never made it twice.. 

We didn't have a Star Trek Five, or Psycho Two and Three,
Or Rocky-Rambo Twenty in the Land That Made Me, Me. 

Miss Kitty had a heart of gold, and Chester had a limp,
And Reagan was a Democrat whose co-star was a chimp. 

We had a Mr. Wizard, but not a Mr. T,
And Oprah couldn't talk yet, in the Land That Made Me,
 Me.
We had our share of heroes, we never thought they'd go,
At least not Bobby Darin, or Marilyn Monroe. 
 

For youth was still eternal, and life was yet to be,
And Elvis  ;was forever in the Land That Made Me,
 Me. 
We'd never seen the rock band that was Grateful to be Dead,
And Airplanes weren't named Jefferson , and Zeppelins were not Led. 

And Beatles lived in gardens then, and Monkees lived in trees,
Madonna was Mary in the Land That Made Me,
 Me. 
We'd never heard of microwaves, or telephones in cars,
And babies might be bottle-fed, but they were not grown in jars. 

And pumping iron got wrinkles out, and 'gay' meant fancy-free,
And dorms were never co-Ed in the Land That Made Me,
 Me.

We hadn't seen enough of jets to talk about the lag,
And microchips were what was left at the bottom of the bag. 

And hardware was a box of nails, and bytes came from a flea,
And rocket ships were fiction in the Land That Made Me,
 Me. 
Buicks came with portholes, and side shows came with freaks,
And bathing suits came big enough to cover both your cheeks. 

And Coke came just in bottles, and skirts below the knee,
And Castro came to power near the Land That Made Me,
 Me. 
We had no Crest with Fluoride, we had no Hill Street Blues,
We had no patterned pantyhose or Lipton herbal tea
 
Or prime-time ads for those dysfunctions in the Land That Made Me, Me. 
There were no golden arches, no Perrier to chill, And fish were not called Wanda, and cats were not called Bill 
And middle-aged was 35 and old was forty-three,
And ancient were our parents in the Land That Made Me,
 Me. 
But all things have a season, or so we've heard them say,
And now instead of Maybelline we swear by Retin-A.
They send us invitations to join AARP,
We've come a long way, baby, from the Land That Made Me, Me.
So now we face a brave new world in slightly larger jeans,
And wonder why they're using smaller print in magazines.
And we tell our children's children of the way it used to be,
Long ago and far away in the Land That Made Me, Me. 

Buckskin Joe

Love ALWAYS Wins!

Posted by Picasa"When I despair, I remember that all through history the ways of truth and love have always won. There have been tyrants, and murderers, and for a time they can seem invincible--but in the end they always fall. Think of it--ALWAYS!"--Gandhi

Thursday, May 05, 2016

Viva Cinco de Mayo...Enjoy!

Please don't drink and drive, the life you save may be your own.

Wisdom


Posted by PicasaConfucius says... "By three methods we may learn wisdom: First, is by reflection, which is the noblest; Second, by imitation which is the easiest; and third, by experience, which is the bitterest."

Hope

If you do not hope, you will never find what is beyond your hopes.

Wednesday, May 04, 2016

Star Wars TooDay


Star Wars Day!

McBumpersnickers

1. I do my own stunts
2. Actually...NO ONE OWES YOU CRAP!
3. Talk Nerdy to me
4. You mess with me, you mess with the whole Trailer Park
5. The man behind THE BELLY
6. Fictional Character
7. Gettin' Lucky in Kentucky
8. Dave's not here man
9. Hi, I don't care, Thanks!
10. This is why we can't have nice things
11. RECTUM, it's whut I dun to muh other 2 cars
12. Spay or neuter your local dogfighter
13. Brain Surgeon-changing minds, one operation at a time
14. Parent of twins...who needs sanity anyways
15. Saw it, wanted it, threw a fit, got it!

Never be afraid to...


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Politicians?


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Tuesday, May 03, 2016

Circle of Life

Think of your life as a circle. You’re standing right in the middle of it. Anything beyond the edge is your discomfort zone, things like public speaking, asking for a raise, starting something new, changing, even fears of spiders and snakes. It’s all there. 
The quality and quantity of your fulfillment is determined by how often you expand your circle by taking risks.

The Passive Aggressive Raven


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Monday, May 02, 2016

13 Things...

1. Depression is not a choice.
Depression is one of the most helpless and frustrating experiences a person can have. It’s sometimes feeling sad, sometimes feeling empty, and sometimes feeling absolutely nothing at all. There are times when depression can leave someone feeling paralyzed in their own mind and body, unable to do the things they used to love to do or the things they know they should be doing. Depression is not just a bad day or a bad mood and it’s not something someone can just “get over.” Remember no one chooses to be depressed.

2. Saying things like “it’ll get better,” “you just need to get out of the house,” or “you’ll be fine” is meaningless.

It’s easy to tell someone these things because you think you’re giving them a solution or a simple way to make them feel better and to ease their pain, but these kinds of phrases always come across as empty, insulting, and essentially meaningless.
Saying these phrases to them only create more tension within, making them feel as though they’re inadequate, and like you’re not acknowledging what they’re going through by trying to put a band aid on a much larger issue. They understand you’re just trying to help but these words only make them feel worse. A silent hug can do so much more than using cliched sayings.
What you can say instead:
I’m here for you. I believe in you. I believe you are stronger than this and I believe you’ll get through this. What can I do to help you? What do you think would make you feel better?
Avoid offering advice but instead just let them know you’re there for them and ask them questions to help guide them in discovering what could make them feel better.

3. Sometimes they have to push you away before they can bring you closer.

People who suffer from depression often get frustrated with feeling like they’re a burden on other people. This causes them to isolate themselves and push away people they need the most, mentally exhausting themselves from worrying about if they’re weighing their loved ones down with their sadness. If they become distant, just remember to let them know you’re still there, but don’t try to force them to hang out or talk about what’s going on if they don’t want to.

4. You’re allowed to get frustrated.

Just because someone deals with depression doesn’t mean you have to cater to all of their needs or walk around eggshells when you’re around them. Depressed people need to feel loved and supported but if it begins to create a negative impact on your life you’re allowed to acknowledge this and figure out how to show them love and kindness without self-sacrificing.

5. It’s important to discuss and create boundaries.

In those moments of frustration it’s important to take a step back and look at how you can help the depressed person while also maintaining your own sense of happiness and fulfillment. Be patient. Talk to them about your concerns and explain the boundaries you need to create within your relationship. Find out something that works for both of you.

6. They can become easily overwhelmed.

Constant exhaustion is a common side effect of depression. Just getting through the day can be an overwhelming and exhausting experience. They may seem and look totally fine one moment and in the next moment feel tired and have no energy at all, even if they’re getting plenty of sleep every night. This can result in them canceling plans suddenly, leaving events early, or saying no to things altogether. Just remember it’s not about anything you did. It’s just one of the prevalent side effects of living with the disease.

7. It’s not about you.

When you have a loved one dealing with depression it can be difficult to understand what they’re going through and to consider how their sadness is a reflection of your relationship with them. If they need space or become distant don’t blame yourself and wonder how you could do things differently to heal them. Understand their depression is not about you.

8. Avoid creating ultimatums, making demands, or using a “tough-love” approach.

Telling someone you’re going to break up with them or not talk to them anymore if they don’t get better is not going to magically cure them of their illness. They won’t suddenly become the person you want them to be just because you’re tired of dealing with their problems. It’s a personal decision to walk away from someone if their issues become too much for you and your relationship with them, but thinking the ‘tough-love’ approach will make them better is unrealistic and manipulative.

9. They don’t always want to do this alone.

Many often assume people dealing with depression want to just be left alone. While there are may be times when they want their space, this doesn’t mean they want to face their fears completely alone. Offer to take them on a drive somewhere. Ask if they want to get coffee or a meal. One on one time where you can bring them out of their routine and where you two can connect can often mean everything for them. Reach out to them unexpectedly. Remind them they don’t have to do this alone.

10. Try not to compare your experiences with theirs.

When someone is going through a rough time we often want to share with them our own stories to let them know you’ve gone through something similar and can relate with their struggle. When you say something like, “oh yeah, this one time I was depressed too…” it only makes them feel like you’re minimizing their pain. Express empathy but don’t suppress their feelings. The greatest resource you can share with your friend is your ability to listen. That’s all they really need.

11. It’s okay to ask your friend where they are in their feelings.

How are they really feeling and how are they coping with their depression? Suicidal thoughts are a common occurrence for depressed people and it’s okay to directly ask them ways they’re practicing self-care and to come up with a safety plan for times when their depression becomes too overwhelming.

12. Schedule time to spend together.

Offer to spend time with them once or twice a week to exercise, grocery shop, or hang out together. Ask if you can cook dinner with them and plan a friend date. One of the hardest parts of depression is feeling too exhausted to cook healthy meals, so you can really help them out by cooking food they can store in their fridge or freezer for a later time.

13. Just because someone is depressed doesn’t mean that they’re weak.

In his book Against Happiness: In Praise Of Melancholia, author Eric G. Wilson explores the depths of sadness and how experiencing mental anguish can actually make us more empathetic, creative people. Although he explains the difference between depression and melancholia, he rejects the idea of inflated happiness our culture and society is obsessed with, and instead explains why we reap benefits from the darker moments in life. Wilson writes:
“I for one am afraid that our American culture’s overemphasis on happiness at the expense of sadness might be dangerous, a wanton forgetting of an essential part of a full life. I further am wary in the face of this possibility: to desire only happiness in a world undoubtedly tragic is to become inauthentic, to settle for unrealistic abstractions that ignore concrete situations. I am finally fearful over our society’s efforts to expunge melancholia from the system. Without the agitations of the soul, would all of our magnificently yearning towers topple? Would our heart-torn symphonies cease?”
In a similar manner psychiatrist and philosopher, Dr. Neel Burton, discusses in his Tedx talk about how some of the most influential and important people in history have experienced depression. He explains the way our culture looks at and treats depression and how traditional societies differ in their approach, seeing human distress as an indicator of the need to address important life problems, not a mental illness.
It’s important to remember depression is not something that should be considered shameful and experiencing it doesn’t make someone weak or inadequate. 
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Man's Best Friend

Scientist says MRI scans prove that dogs are people, too

Finally, science is proving what we here at msnNOW have been saying all along: Dogs are people, too. Gregory Berns, a neuroscientist at Emory University, writes in the New York Times that he used an MRI machine set up in his living room to monitor the brain activity of a dozen dogs, including his own black terrier Callie. Berns writes that results showed dogs' caudate nucleus, the part of the brain that registers positive anticipation, functions similarly to humans'.



"In dogs, we found that activity in the caudate increased in response to hand signals indicating food," Berns writes. "The caudate also activated to the smells of familiar humans. And in preliminary tests, it activated to the return of an owner who had momentarily stepped out of view."
Berns' conclusion: Dogs experience positive emotions, and he believes they have the same level of sentience as human children. Of course, we've been saying that for a while — but it's nice of Berns to confirm. [Source]

Controlled?

Some people believe that to live a spiritual life, one has to give up all material possessions, or meditate for years on a mountain in solitude. But we don’t need to give up material possessions to experience spiritual enlightenment; we just need to not be controlled by them.

Sunday, May 01, 2016

Things My Mother Taught Me...

My Mother taught me LOGIC..."If you fall off that swing and break your neck, you can't go to the store with me."
My Mother taught me MEDICINE..."If you don't stop crossing your eyes, they're going to freeze that way."
My Mother taught me TO THINK AHEAD..."If you don't pass your spelling test, you'll never get a good job!"
My Mother taught me ESP..."Put your sweater on; don't you think that I know when you're cold?"
My Mother taught me TO MEET A CHALLENGE..."What were you thinking? Answer me when I talk to you...Don't talk back to me!"
My Mother taught me HUMOR..."When that lawn mower cuts off your toes, don't come running to me."
My Mother taught me how to BECOME AN ADULT..."If you don't eat your vegetables, you'll never grow up.
My mother taught me about GENETICS..."You are just like your father!"
My mother taught me about my ROOTS..."Do you think you were born in a barn?"
My mother taught me about the WISDOM of AGE..."When you get to be my age, you will understand."
My mother taught me about ANTICIPATION..."Just wait until your father gets home."
My mother taught me about RECEIVING..."You are going to get it when we get home."
And, my all-time favorite - JUSTICE..."One day you'll have kids, and I hope they turn out just like YOU -- then you'll see what it's like."

I Love Mountains

Dear Joe,

You may remember in 2008 when Bank of America stepped up and became the first bank to pass a policy about investing in mountaintop removal coal mining. Well, it turns out the devil is in the details.
At that time, Bank of America committed to "phase out financing of companies whose predominant method of extracting coal is through mountain top removal." At the time, that meant severing ties with companies like Massey Energy - an action we applauded.
But this year, Alpha Natural Resources acquired Massey Energy. In fact, Bank of America underwrote a bond to Alpha in June to help finance the Massey acquisition!
Right now, Bank of America underwrites loans to companies that are responsible for 40% of all the mountaintop removal coal that was mined in 2010.
Please sign the pledge to boycott Bank of America until they stop funding mountaintop removal coal mining (page hosted by Rainforest Action Network):
http://ran.org/boapledge

To make matters worse, Bank of America has announced it is going to charge customers $60 a year to use their debit cards at the same time that the bank is laying off 30,000 employees.
Bank of America has clearly decided that profits matter more than people or our planet. Now's your chance to let Bank of America executives know that you're ready to write them off.
Already, thousands of people across the country are taking to the streets to protest the Wall Street banks that have written us all off in the name of their own profits.
Sign the pledge to let the biggest bank in the world, Bank of America, know that you'll be closing your account if it doesn't stop trashing our environment and our economy. Don't have a Bank of America account? You can also pledge to boycott its ATMs.
For the Mountains,
Matt Wasson
iLoveMountains.org

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